In a moment of stress with the kids yesterday, I snapped at Sean and then later, when we talked about it, I realized that what really bothers me is that everyone expects me, Mom, to always be healthy, happy, feeling great, in the mood, smiling and giving compliments, and so on. While I am these things plenty of the time, I am also human and need to express my stress just as everyone else does.
Sometimes the kids really piss me off. Do they mean to? I do not think so. But they still do. And sometimes Sean pisses me off. Does he mean to? Absolutely not. I know it is not intentional and I also know that I am not always a party to be around and I can piss him off as well. The thing is is that, as moms, somehow we have pigeon holed ourselves into this supermom persona. Quite honestly, I would like to be regular mom, not super mom. I would like to be the mom who yells sometimes, who has a headache sometimes, and who really does not feel like parenting sometimes. Oh, wait.... that IS who I am. And yet, it is not widely accepted. We are just supposed to grin and bear it. Well, I am just not a grin and bear it kind of gal. Just as my kids and Sean let me know when their needs are not being met, sometimes I need to do the same.....so, if you hear some loud yelling later on, be not afraid. It is just me, telling my kids, that I do NOT want to cook five different things for dinner and that no matter how much they whine about it, this supermom has taken off the cape and is back to being a regular run of the mill mom....one who does not have the patience, nor the skill, to cook five different meals!
Monday, May 17, 2010
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Top 10
Top 10 things they should tell you in parenting books...but don't:
10. The amount of vomit that can come out of a child is quite disproportionate to his/her size...
9. Sibling rivalry should be called sibling combat...and it should come with the approriate armor.
8. The lung capacity of a small child is also quite disproprtionate to his size...
7. No matter what food style you adopt, you WILL serve macaroni and cheese more than you ever expected...
6. Your child loves you unconditionally, but he also assumes you are his personal servant....not sure which came first, the unconditional love or the position of personal servant...it is a chicken/egg question indeed.
5. No matter how hard you try, you will yell at your kids and you will sound like your parents at one point or another...it is inevitable.
4. You will be tired...a lot. You will long for sleep long after the newborn phase ends. You will long for long lazy mornings in bed....and yet, somehow, you will be amazed at how much you love the snuggles from all those little ones at an all too early hour on a Saturday morning.
3. You will be amazed at the lengths you go to to find quiet...locking yourself in your room, your bathroom, your closet, or perhaps taking a drive to the local nunnery and hanging out there with the cloistered nuns in total silence.
2. You will love the sound of little feet running around...
and finally, last, but definitely not least....
1. When your child has diarrhea, whatever you do, do not put him in the tub to clean him up until you KNOW he is empty, otherwise you will have a VERY UGLY scene on your hands....very ugly.
10. The amount of vomit that can come out of a child is quite disproportionate to his/her size...
9. Sibling rivalry should be called sibling combat...and it should come with the approriate armor.
8. The lung capacity of a small child is also quite disproprtionate to his size...
7. No matter what food style you adopt, you WILL serve macaroni and cheese more than you ever expected...
6. Your child loves you unconditionally, but he also assumes you are his personal servant....not sure which came first, the unconditional love or the position of personal servant...it is a chicken/egg question indeed.
5. No matter how hard you try, you will yell at your kids and you will sound like your parents at one point or another...it is inevitable.
4. You will be tired...a lot. You will long for sleep long after the newborn phase ends. You will long for long lazy mornings in bed....and yet, somehow, you will be amazed at how much you love the snuggles from all those little ones at an all too early hour on a Saturday morning.
3. You will be amazed at the lengths you go to to find quiet...locking yourself in your room, your bathroom, your closet, or perhaps taking a drive to the local nunnery and hanging out there with the cloistered nuns in total silence.
2. You will love the sound of little feet running around...
and finally, last, but definitely not least....
1. When your child has diarrhea, whatever you do, do not put him in the tub to clean him up until you KNOW he is empty, otherwise you will have a VERY UGLY scene on your hands....very ugly.
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